Get Appreciated everywhere
Hungry for appreciations?
Are you taken-over by stress and anxiety of not progressing as much as you want to progress in professional and personal life ? Are you not on demand in your professional and social circle? Are you not getting appreciated everywhere you want ?
If yes , Read this blog with open brain and think on the message deeply . This will change your way of living and everyone will be eager to appreciate you every-time they meet you.
I met an Industrialist last week; he holds the position of CEO in his own company. His company has been doing average business in software development since last five years. Including all classes of employees Company strength is about 200 people. His business expansion plans are resting on his table for more than a year now but could not decide to execute, he has been too busy in solving people problems. Too many of social and professional problems have almost devastated his personal and professional lives.
I asked him to signalize the most critical reason of his emotional Stigma and declining professional performance.
He Said , “Appreciation”.
I questioned astonishingly,” Why do you think so?”
He narrated,” I do treat my employees really well but they return me only complains of dissatisfaction, I do treat my family extremely well but they return me only complains of carelessness, I do treat my relatives at my best but they return me only complains of being disrespectful to them even I nourish my self-motivation with great thoughts but I receive complains of not able to make everyone happy. I never receive appreciation from them but just expectations. Absence of appreciation has started diluting my self- motivation and I started feeling low. This has a ripple effect on each aspect of my life. ”
I questioned further, “So, what are you to all your sources of complains? An asset or a liability? “
He replied with a wink, “What do you mean by this, me as a person, how come I be an asset or liability to people around me? “
“You told me earlier that in your last business venture, you have taken a huge loan, have you paid back it all to bank? “ This was my next question which almost irritated him.
He uttered in a loud voice with frowned eyes, “I have taken it once, though money gone wasted into business losses but I am paying it back every month, it sucks. “
“It means onetime benefit provided by the bank has encircled you in continuous undesired duty of paying back, that too with huge interest. I can imagine that every incoming call or communication from that bank might be immediately raising your anxiety and your response to those calls could have become harsh rather than polite.” Before he can express his obvious answer I presented my next question to him. “For you, the bank is an asset or a liability?”
“Yes, it’s a damn liability and I want to get rid of it by all possible means!” He shouted.
*Anger is difficult to handle, because it shutdowns the wise receptive doors of brain and heart. I pushed him to a break from the discussion; a good cup of coffee with no talk sometimes dilutes the anger particles in human brain. I bet it does.*
After we finished the coffee, in an extremely humble voice, I continued, “Do you own a car?”
He said,” Yes, I Do. “
“Is it an asset or liability for you? “was my next question.
His gestures were obviously reflecting his disinterest in my questions, but he controlled himself somehow.
He said,” Definitely it’s a Critical asset for me, though I have to pay some maintenance and fuel cost, but it makes my life easier & I depend on it almost every day for my movements. I care for it and save it even from a minor scratch on its surface. “
“It means you put all your positive efforts to maintain and care for your assets, on the other hand you get filled with anxieties when you glimpse at your liability that you have to pay back as undesired duty, do I sound right?” I concluded.
“Yes I do, what is so special about it? Everyone does & feels the same way.” He replied raffishly.
I was smiling mysteriously, saying “Everyone does & feels the same way. You are absolutely right my friend, it’s all common and nothing special about it. We know the very common things but forget to apply them rightly in our day to day business and relationships.”
He was bewildered for a minute, looked at me, looked at the ground and then looked up in the sky. Gradually his face started transforming from baffled expression to calm then slight smile and then he could not control his laugh. His laughter got louder and I joined him laughing even louder.
I was happy that he has understood the root cause of his problems , his laughter was the sign of the fact that he already had the solution to his problem but he was not noticing it since long.
Before I left his place I said,” Be an asset to all those sources of complains you have, as soon as you do it they will immediately transform into sources of appreciation for you, All the Best my friend.
“Life is simple, it works on simple rules. Everyone care for the assets they possess but hate the liabilities they hold. Be it profession or relation, it works on both. You always like to be with the friend-A who is an asset in your feelings but hate to be with friend-B who always asks for a favor or gives troublesome notions.
Become an asset to the people from whom you want to receive appreciations.
Being an asset as person means being strong enough to savior others, dependable enough to catch the escaping ball behind the wicket and dedicated enough to win together “
” Be an asset not a liability,this is the only key to get appreciated everywhere “
Life Skills SME| Skills Ahead
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Key words: Appreciation, Performance, Asset, Liability